Honor Your Spouse
We are pretty well acclimated to what it means to honor a highly elected official or leader. But how well do you honor your spouse? Do you feel your spouse honors you?
The Bible instructs us to honor our spouse. Honoring our spouse further solidifies our intimacy and makes our bond stronger. This component of honor allows God to keep cultivating our heart as individuals. But also, so that we can bless God and experience an abundantly blessed union.
Honor is defined in the dictionary as “regarding with great respect.” We often hear respect, as a responsibility of wives. Our husbands do indeed need our respect. However, this command in the Bible, does not omit mutual respect. Marriage is a ministry of mutual serving and giving for the betterment of both and for the glory of God. Honoring our spouse begins with our thoughts. If we can see our spouse from God's vantage point, we can more easily honor each other in an impactful way.
Seeing how our spouse brings value to our life reaps an attitude of gratitude. How does your spouse make your life better? What is it that your husband or wife does that you would not want to go without? How would your life be less fulfilling if your spouse was not in the picture? Your spouse's value should not be taken for granted and should not be based on reciprocation. Look for tangible ways to value your spouse. Create space in your schedule to check in with each other. Make time to evaluate each other’s schedule to see how you can lighten each other’s load of responsibilities. Validating each other’s needs, and doing what you can to support each other, shows that you value each other’s contributions to your marriage.
As husband and wife, we often just get up and do what needs to be done. But a word of appreciation, for both the mundane and major accomplishments we take on each day, is a tangible way we can show love and respect. Getting up and going to work, waking up to nurse a baby, securing a second gig to cover the bills... No matter what your spouse is busy doing, make an effort to let your spouse know you see them and appreciate their contributions to your marriage and family. It takes approximately twenty-one days to build a habit, so start today by practicing at least one way to show appreciation to your spouse.
Utilize Their Contributions
Marriage is not a one-man, or one-woman show. Marriage works best when the contributions of both are utilized. If your wife is a savvy spender, let her budget and balance the finances. If your husband is passionate about cooking, let him handle the meal plan and prep. Don’t allow pride to keep you from utilizing each other’s strengths in your marriage. Keep the love flowing and give your spouse the freedom to use their talents, gifts, and strengths to further God's Kingdom and build a legacy for your family.
Pray for ways to reach your spouse's heart in a way that reflects your intentions to honor them. God is always our source when it comes to finding the key to our spouses, needs, wants, and innermost desires because God knows them best. Give verbal affirmations often. Express that you value, appreciate, and are thankful for your spouse's contributions. Our marriages are priceless, and we must treat each other as assets and not as an accessory. Marriage takes work, but it is well worth the reward!
Need help starting? Print out “A Vow to Honor Cards” for FREE! These cards include prompts that you can personalize and print out. Leave the cards in a lunch bag, on the bed, anywhere your husband or
wife is sure to see them!
(Printing Suggestion: Print on card stock.)