Parenting: When You're Tired of Hearing Yourself Talk
Waking up just knowing you are going to have to repeat yourself fifty times, can give you a pessimistic outlook on your day. All you want is for your kids to actually listen to what you tell them to do. Easy enough right? But we must flip the script, so we can thrive and not survive each passing day.
Change Your Self Talk
What do you rehearse in your head about your kids all day? Most of us realize that children are a blessing. But in this season you may be loathing, rather than loving being a parent in your private thoughts. Whatever you choose to rehearse the most, becomes the soundtrack to your day, sometimes week or even the whole month. Start each day with new grace for you and your children, so you can be the best you. Parenting effectively begins from the overflow of peace we receive daily from the Lord. When the kids are determined to do and say the craziest things, despite your instruction, God will ground you and direct you. Parenting effectively begins with training our responses to honor Christ. Don't focus too much on the setbacks, but rather thank God for all progress, big and small.
Change Your Dialogue with Your Child
Instead of preaching to your older children, include them in your train of thought. Explain to them the end goal. If they are younger, stay encouraged that what you train them to do will eventually take root.
After you have said what needs to, be quiet. Often our extra talking isn't effective, rather it just exhausts us. Let your actions speak louder than your words. We can’t ignore negative behaviors, but we can invite them into a space where they can see that their lack of obedience won’t go without a fair consequence. God, who is a perfect parent models this for us. “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11, NIV).
No one has it all together with their parenting, we are all perfectly imperfect parents. God has given each of us the children we have for a divine purpose. Each season and stage of development our kids go through, we are being made better and our reliance on God stronger. Will you allow God to do what He does best? God is working it all together for our good, even in the monotonous and mundane tasks that accompany parenting.
Remain hopeful and expect God to show up in special ways in your home. Pray that God will give you supernatural provisions this week in your parenting. There is beauty and joy in the journey, as we remain steadfast to train our children in the way they should go.