Release Your Kids & Remember God's Faithfulness
There is no denying it. When you recognize that you have a child who is strong-willed, it helps you realize how much lack of control you have. But I believe this is one of the many circumstances God uses to grow us as parents. While we are busy showing our children the ways of life, God has something to teach us...His "big kids."
Just when we think we have a rhythm to this parenting thing... Situations will arise that show us how we need God's help on a whole different level.
What do you do when your child thinks they know it all? Has everything become an argument? Is their mindset stuck on their way alone? Are you left thinking, "I wish they would listen, not with their ears, but their heart?"
You're not alone. I’ve been there, and I am still there. But then I stop, pause, and reflect on my own life’s
journey. The words of a song come to my mind….
"You have rescued my life
You have rescued my life
And I'm never going back
My response is
You're my redeemer
This is a song by Phil Thompson, that reminds me how much rescuing of my own actions has taken place over the years. I was raised by Christian parents, a two-parent home, and lots of love... Still, I made some regretful decisions. But God was still sovereign. I think sometimes as parents we forget that. For a time we can discipline our kids and get them to respond the right way. But as they get older we can no longer utilize the same measure of discipline. As our children get older it may feel as if we no longer have control over our children, but in reality, we never did. Our children belong to God. He is their first parent. The sooner we accept this fact, the sooner we will be less emotionally and mentally depleted.
Try instead to level up your spiritual armor. Upgrade your time in prayer, intercession, and fasting so that you can be more in tune with God's Spirit throughout the day.
When you feel helpless in regards to the outcome of your children, it is a setup to observe God’s rescuing power!
We need growth in our spiritual journey, and God will almost always use our kids to mature us.
Continue to consistently train, love, and nurture your children to live a godly life. Allow them to feel the
pain with peaceful confidence.
Some of your child's choices and actions that may look like a liability now might be what gives them leverage in the future.
God loves all of our children and yes, our strong-willed children, just as much. God is near when we feel
helpless, but He will remain faithful to equip us to see our children and their future through His eyes.
Have faith, love your child as he or she is...God has your child’s heart in the palm of His hand.
Understand, therefore, that the Lord your God is indeed God. He is the faithful God who keeps his covenant for a thousand generations and lavishes his unfailing love on those who love him and obey his commands. -Deuteronomy 7:9(NLT)